You know what they say about parent-child relationships: roles change. Is it finally that time for you?
Would you sleep better at night if you knew your aging parent(s) didn’t live by themselves? Are you ready to move them but don't know how to best go about it?
This guide is here to help. Don't let moving your elderly parents--whether into your own home or into another state--stress you out. Keep reading for seven helpful tips for making moving your senior parents a positive experience.
[b]1. Honesty [/b]
All you hear about moving your elderly parents is bad, bad, bad. Have you heard the "moving-my-elderly-mother-into-a-nursing-home" story where the children have to trick her into leaving her house? They tell her they're taking her to lunch, then end up at the nursing home they've arranged for her?
Unfortunately, this happens all the time. It's a traumatic experience for the aging parent and the children. Your experience doesn't have to be like that!
The key here is honesty. Even if your senior parents are forgetful and stubborn, they deserve transparency. Talk openly about your plans for them and their desires for themselves.
Whether you're helping them move to a warmer state, into your own home, or into an assisted living home, be straightforward and clear. Share details, intentions, and goals. Being on the same page should help your experience be smooth and drama-free!
[b]2. Hire Professional Movers [/b]
You may have plenty of family and friends willing to help your parents move, but that's not always the best option. For your aging parents, reducing stress and worry is crucial. It's best to hire a moving company in this case.
Counting on non-professional movers (who are most likely working for free) isn't reliable. What if four people show up to help instead of the 30 that agreed to? Don't risk it!
[url=https://www.angieslist.com/articles/7-reasons-hire-professional-movers.htm]Professional movers[/url] are trained to pack, box, and move in a safe, effective way. And many companies come with warranties or guarantees, in case they do break something. This can give your parents peace of mind.
Most importantly, if you hire a capable, dependable moving team, you and your parents don't have to worry about anything. They can forget about all the work of packing, sorting, and hauling boxes. It's time for them to [i]enjoy[/i].
[b]3. Plan Their New Home Layout Beforehand [/b]
Moving into the unknown is scary for anyone! Your aging parents are probably imagining a cluttered, completely foreign space filled with boxes.
Help them plan out the layout of their new home before the move. Give them a clear blueprint of their new space, and talk in detail about where they'll put what. Consider even drawing it out or labeling things.
This can help them wrap their minds around the move. It'll make the new home less foreign and more exciting.
Having a clear plan takes the guesswork out of moving. It can already be their home before they even get there!
[b]4. Find New Doctors & Specialists Beforehand [/b]
A new home means new people and new routines. This can be daunting for elderly people who have recurring appointments with the same doctors.
Find your parents new doctors and specialists [i]before[/i] the move. Just like planning out their home layout beforehand, choosing new doctors beforehand eliminates uncertainty and worry.
WebMD has a helpful search engine that allows you to [url=https://doctor.webmd.com/]search for doctors and specialists[/url] near any address. Plug in your parents' future address and start researching doctors in their new area.
Together you can read reviews, ask around, and even meet with the new providers. This can give your parents some much-needed confidence about their new life.
[b]5. Downsize [/b]
It's hard for many people, especially elderly people, to part with their belongings. Even if they don't need it or use it.
It's important for you to understand that it's more about sentimentality than about the actual belongings. Discarding belongings is yet another move away from an old life and toward a new one, which is what your senior parent may be struggling with.
Let's say your mom has a broken lamp that's 20 years old. It sits in a closet and doesn't see the light of day. But she doesn't want to get rid of it.
Have patience and empathy in these situations. But also remember that de-junking is a major de-stressor. Shedding old, useless things can help your parents move on, feeling lighter and less tied-down than before.
Don't be surprised when your parents hesitate to downsize their stuff. But encourage them to when appropriate. It can help them in the long run.
[b]6. Rent a Storage Unit [/b]
If your parents are hesitant to give up unnecessary belongings (or if they downright refuse), rent a storage unit. They can store these belongings in their unit for as long as they're willing to pay for it.
This can give them some peace of mind. They don't have to decide [i]right now[/i] what they have to part with.
In an already-taxing situation with so much change happening, it can help to provide them an easy "out" like this. Chances are, they'll end up getting rid of those belongings. But they didn't have to do it during the move, which made all the difference in their contentment.
[b]7. Pick the Right Place [/b]
Choosing the right place for your senior parents is the most important thing you can do. You may feel pressure to have them live with you. But is that what's really best for them?
You may feel hesitant to move them into a nursing home or assisted living community. But is it what's best for them and you're just feeling guilty?
Together with your parents, decide what environment is most helpful, realistic, and happy for them. Go over their financial situation, physical needs, social desires, and future goals.
Be thorough in your search. You can find a situation that's best for them. Always read testimonials about care homes and facilities, don't let [url=https://arthursresidentialcare.com/a-guide-to-help-with-moving-your-aging-parents/]moving your aging parents[/url] be a gamble!
[b]Moving Your Aging Parent(s) Doesn't Have to be Stressful [/b]
Have you been dreading the day when you have to move your senior parents? You're not alone.
Change isn't easy for most people. Imagine how difficult it is for those who have lived in the same house with the same things for 60 years!
Taking care of your parents in your home or moving them into another home doesn't have to be maddening. Follow the tips in this guide for a positive, smooth experience.
Roles do change, and you may now be responsible for your aging parents, but that role can be a good one. Embrace it today!
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